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Today I took a flight to Toronto, and well, I must say I\u2019ve never understood, from my reasoning, why people aren\u2019t logical in their judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I\u2019ve told you so many times before, I deeply respect anyone who has their own opinion and doesn\u2019t let themselves be swayed by trends. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, I\u2019ll be clear about this: not letting yourself be influenced by the world doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t like a lot of what you see. In fact, I once read a quote that said, \u201clearn to observe without absorbing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These days I was chatting with my friends\u2014all of them beautiful. Even though you know how important it is for me to deal with intellectual people, I hang out with them every now and then because it\u2019s always good to have the full perspective, you know, a 50-50 of everything. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019d be impossible to say my reasoning is correct if I don\u2019t listen to others, since everyone, in one way or another, teaches us something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a phrase someone I consider very wise once told me: \u201cdon\u2019t be stubborn about listening and obstinate about speaking.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though I think I\u2019d phrase it differently, he explained it to me\u2014when I say this, because I know what you\u2019re thinking, Kim\u2014many times we\u2019re as reluctant as a donkey to follow advice, but we\u2019re quick to speak up, and often acting is implicitly saying something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, the topic of conversation with my friends was about why so many relationships aren\u2019t monogamous\u2026 It\u2019s hard to define something when it\u2019s only half-said, but you and I both know there are words that simply have a meaning\u2026 haha, gotcha!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of them said, \u201cKim, you who knows everything and finds answers for what you don\u2019t, I was dating a doctor, a surgeon, my age, checked all the boxes on my list, plus we got along well, and suddenly he stopped inviting me out. I\u2019d text him, and he wouldn\u2019t reply.. It filled me with anxiety, and I swear I don\u2019t know what to do. I think, on top of everything, I\u2019m a pretty girl\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, ppl out there, don\u2019t be bad! Let Ghosting go! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was hard for me, but I had to tell her (I tend to be very direct with my opinions), \u201cBaby, from your perspective, you think the guy (she\u2019s heterosexual) is the one who has to meet your list of requirements, but you can\u2019t just tell me you\u2019re a pretty girl. He has to meet your tastes, but you can\u2019t sum everything up with your beauty.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She reply me, \u201cKim, I talked about this with Danielle, and she told me to post pics where I look sexy\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

OMG! I told her, \u201cHoney, I\u2019ll say it again, it\u2019s not all about physical beauty. When a guy checks all your boxes\u2014and I know him well\u2014you can\u2019t expect him not to look for something beyond the superficial. Being in a relationship isn\u2019t just about what he can offer me long-term, but also what I have to offer him\u2026 I mean, don\u2019t expect him not to have his own checklist too, and maybe you had something that didn\u2019t meet his, especially if you\u2019re aiming for such a high target.\u201d I added, \u201cDanielle\u2019s advice is fine, but the pictures I\u2019ve seen on your IG lately aren\u2019t for someone likely looking for a monogamous relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

People don\u2019t have the obligation or the right to tell you what to do, but in short, I\u2019ll tell you something that applies to business: \u2018cheap prices attract problematic customers.\u2019 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You love high-quality clothes, and if you find the same brand on sale, you check it out, and if you like something, you wear it once or twice. But let me ask you, do you take care of something you bought at full price the same way? Would you even give it away? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I\u2019m saying is, if he has his checklist and sees your pictures, all I can tell you is that sometimes it doesn\u2019t hurt to be mindful of what we share. Because if what you post is for the public, there\u2019s nothing left to desire in private.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was stunned after my opinion, and let it be noted, I never gave her advice. I believe people are free to form their own judgment after hearing opinions\u2014I apply that myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Monogamy is the new taboo. Before, making videos or taking pictures in underwear or swimsuits and posting them somewhere was taboo, but I think there\u2019s a time for everything, and anyone can do it if it\u2019s within their preferences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just don\u2019t contradict yourself by saying you want a monogamous relationship while doing the complete opposite. For example\u2014and I\u2019ll clarify, everyone is free to do what they think\u2014but you can\u2019t look for something on social media that you want in private. I mean, Don\u2019t ask for a monogamous relationship if what matters to you is being admired like a Hollywood star. And that\u2019s not wrong, but then I think you should look for another social media star.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always chase what you want, and I\u2019m sure you\u2019ll get it, but let what you want align with what you do. It\u2019s like astrology\u2014all the planets will align, and you\u2019ll attract what you want when your thoughts align with your actions. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yesterday, saying goodbye to a friend because I had this flight, she spent half the dinner arguing with her boyfriend because she was glued to her social media, with thousands of friends. As far as I know, he\u2019s a guy with a more private focus. She\u2019s very pretty, but so empty inside. We finished dinner while she was crying and taking a selfie, saying, \u201cmy life is mine alone, even if it hurts.\u201d I just thought about how irrational even that phrase was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These two examples help us understand a bit that people will always be driven by emotions first and foremost. And second, I know very few people who control that first impulse and act rationally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t expect the whole world to revolve around you. I know if you\u2019ve made it this far, it\u2019s because you understand the difference. I invite you to learn to know yourself and control yourself, then to act and make rational decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Personally, I\u2019m selective, and I follow my own rules, which were shaped after a foundation of principles I\u2019m grateful to my parents for. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The concept of fidelity is undervalued. You\u2019re not faithful to someone else\u2014you\u2019re faithful to yourself. If that principle matters to you, you apply it. It\u2019s about valuing yourself, whether you\u2019re alone or with someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life is simple, as long as you understand its rules..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bye now!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n

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Today I took a flight to Toronto, and well, I must say I\u2019ve never understood, from my reasoning, why people aren\u2019t logical in their judgment. As I\u2019ve told you so many times before, I deeply respect anyone who has their own opinion and doesn\u2019t let themselves be swayed by trends.  Now, I\u2019ll be clear about this: not letting yourself be influenced by the world doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t like a lot of what you see. In fact, I once read a quote that said, \u201clearn to observe without absorbing.\u201d These days I was chatting with my friends\u2014all of them beautiful. Even though you know how important it is for me to deal with intellectual people, I hang out with them every now and then because it\u2019s always good to have the full perspective, you know, a 50-50 of everything.  It\u2019d be impossible to say my reasoning is correct if I don\u2019t listen to others, since everyone, in one way or another, teaches us something. There\u2019s a phrase someone I consider very wise once told me: \u201cdon\u2019t be stubborn about listening and obstinate about speaking.\u201d  Though I think I\u2019d phrase it differently, he explained it to me\u2014when I say this, because I know what you\u2019re thinking, Kim\u2014many times we\u2019re as reluctant as a donkey to follow advice, but we\u2019re quick to speak up, and often acting is implicitly saying something. So, the topic of conversation with my friends was about why so many relationships aren\u2019t monogamous\u2026 It\u2019s hard to define something when it\u2019s only half-said, but you and I both know there are words that simply have a meaning\u2026 haha, gotcha! One of them said, \u201cKim, you who knows everything and finds answers for what you don\u2019t, I was dating a doctor, a surgeon, my age, checked all the boxes on my list, plus we got along well, and suddenly he stopped inviting me out. I\u2019d text him, and he wouldn\u2019t reply.. It filled me with anxiety, and I swear I don\u2019t know what to do. I think, on top of everything, I\u2019m a pretty girl\u2026\u201d First of all, ppl out there, don\u2019t be bad! Let Ghosting go!  It was hard for me, but I had to tell her (I tend to be very direct with my opinions), \u201cBaby, from your perspective, you think the guy (she\u2019s heterosexual) is the one who has to meet your list of requirements, but you can\u2019t just tell me you\u2019re a pretty girl. He has to meet your tastes, but you can\u2019t sum everything up with your beauty.\u201d She reply me, \u201cKim, I talked about this with Danielle, and she told me to post pics where I look sexy\u2026\u201d OMG! I told her, \u201cHoney, I\u2019ll say it again, it\u2019s not all about physical beauty. When a guy checks all your boxes\u2014and I know him well\u2014you can\u2019t expect him not to look for something beyond the superficial. Being in a relationship isn\u2019t just about what he can offer me long-term, but also what I have to offer him\u2026 I mean, don\u2019t expect him not to have his own checklist too, and maybe you had something that didn\u2019t meet his, especially if you\u2019re aiming for such a high target.\u201d I added, \u201cDanielle\u2019s advice is fine, but the pictures I\u2019ve seen on your IG lately aren\u2019t for someone likely looking for a monogamous relationship.  People don\u2019t have the obligation or the right to tell you what to do, but in short, I\u2019ll tell you something that applies to business: \u2018cheap prices attract problematic customers.\u2019  You love high-quality clothes, and if you find the same brand on sale, you check it out, and if you like something, you wear it once or twice. But let me ask you, do you take care of something you bought at full price the same way? Would you even give it away?  What I\u2019m saying is, if he has his checklist and sees your pictures, all I can tell you is that sometimes it doesn\u2019t hurt to be mindful of what we share. Because if what you post is for the public, there\u2019s nothing left to desire in private.\u201d She was stunned after my opinion, and let it be noted, I never gave her advice. I believe people are free to form their own judgment after hearing opinions\u2014I apply that myself. Monogamy is the new taboo. Before, making videos or taking pictures in underwear or swimsuits and posting them somewhere was taboo, but I think there\u2019s a time for everything, and anyone can do it if it\u2019s within their preferences.  Just don\u2019t contradict yourself by saying you want a monogamous relationship while doing the complete opposite. For example\u2014and I\u2019ll clarify, everyone is free to do what they think\u2014but you can\u2019t look for something on social media that you want in private. I mean, Don\u2019t ask for a monogamous relationship if what matters to you is being admired like a Hollywood star. And that\u2019s not wrong, but then I think you should look for another social media star. Always chase what you want, and I\u2019m sure you\u2019ll get it, but let what you want align with what you do. It\u2019s like astrology\u2014all the planets will align, and you\u2019ll attract what you want when your thoughts align with your actions. \ud83d\ude09 Yesterday, saying goodbye to a friend because I had this flight, she spent half the dinner arguing with her boyfriend because she was glued to her social media, with thousands of friends. As far as I know, he\u2019s a guy with a more private focus. She\u2019s very pretty, but so empty inside. We finished dinner while she was crying and taking a selfie, saying, \u201cmy life is mine alone, even if it hurts.\u201d I just thought about how irrational even that phrase was. These two examples help us understand a bit that people will always be driven by emotions first and foremost. And second, I know very few people who control that first impulse and act rationally. You can\u2019t expect the whole world to revolve around you. I know if you\u2019ve made it this far, it\u2019s because you understand the difference. I invite you to learn to know yourself and control yourself, then to act and make rational decisions. Personally, I\u2019m selective, and I follow my own rules, which were shaped after a foundation of principles I\u2019m grateful to my parents for.  The concept of fidelity is undervalued. You\u2019re not faithful to someone else\u2014you\u2019re faithful to yourself. If that principle matters to you, you apply it. It\u2019s about valuing yourself, whether you\u2019re alone or with someone. Life is simple, as long as you understand its rules.. 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