Personally, I have rules in my \u2018playbook\u2019 \u2013 literally a playbook, because let\u2019s be honest, calling it a \u2018rulebook\u2019 just doesn\u2019t have the same friendly vibe and excitement… and I don\u2019t like things that lack flow, you know?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Anyway, one of my rules is that I always have a four-date rule with someone. I never go beyond that number unless I\u2019m genuinely interested in the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wow! That sounded bad! \ud83d\ude05<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I guess what I mean is that sometimes we interact with people where there\u2019s just no chemistry… you know what I mean \ud83d\ude0e<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m a firm believer that no one can decide if the other person is going to be their partner for life or not.. it\u2019s a matter of trying things out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No one ever got tired of eating chocolates, right?<\/em> \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another one of my rules is that the worst thing to face in an emotional interaction is the breakup.. \u2764<\/p>\n\n\n\n Normally, dear readers, I\u2019m a fan of using \u201cThe Mosby\u201d tactic with dates. Learning to read the other player is a poker strategy (which I\u2019ve explained in previous posts), and applying this strategy is foolproof.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting our boundaries helps avoid dealing with emotionally irresponsible people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Confronting them with something they say they want, like \u201cThe Mosby,\u201d makes it easier for them to express what they really want from the emotional interaction. This outcome always simplifies things by not dragging out the results too much and helps avoid creating expectations about the other person, protecting our emotional side. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I think we\u2019re already comfortable in this forum, meaning, in colloquial terms, it helps avoid wasting time with the wrong person while still having fun until the right one comes along haha \ud83d\udc7b<\/p>\n\n\n\n You might be wondering, Hey, Kim, what is \u201cThe Mosby\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Well, “The Mosby” is a tactic, a move in the dating game written in my playbook \ud83d\ude08<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kidding! \ud83d\ude01\ud83d\ude07<\/p>\n\n\n\n It’s the name of a tactic explained in an episode of one of my favorite shows, HIMYM. In the show, one of the characters named “Barney” explains that he uses this tactic to scare off people who aren’t really interested. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Basically, it involves making a big or partial declaration of love prematurely (four dates according to my rule) to see how the other person reacts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they get scared and back off or give excuses that completely contradict what they said during the courtship ritual, it means that the connection wasn’t genuine. In the other hand, if they stay, it indicates there’s interest, and in this case, it would be good to emphasize that it was a test \u2013 nobody falls in love at first sight haha \ud83d\ude05<\/p>\n\n\n\n A friend once told me, ‘Kim, stop putting your strategies on the blog, or you’ll run out of your lineup.’ And I thought, why should I stop advising others just to avoid displeasing someone? My advice offers a perspective for analysis based on individual experiences; nothing is set in stone… And, you know, I’m a genuine person, with some ‘delulu’ ideas hehe \ud83d\udc7d<\/p>\n\n\n\n I’ll wrap up with a little gossip about myself\u2026 I recently went to a beach wedding of some friends, and I realized that there’s no physical standard for love… But it’s valid to know what you’re willing to accept and what you’re not, your negotiables and non-negotiables are like the cherry on top or the little figures on the wedding cake haha<\/p>\n\n\n\n The gossip is that I really like the song ‘Nothing Else Matters’ by Metallica played for.. \ud83c\udf41<\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, don’t generalize when it comes to stereotypes\u2026 And when it comes to red flags, well, don’t forget that even if you think a pattern is the same as a cycle you’ve overcome, it can bring you back to it.. Fire is the only thing that makes us feel alive \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are no saints walking on earth\u2026 before judging someone, make sure your footprints are clean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ha! You caught me. I guess I\u2019m just a hopeless romantic, trying to spread love and laughter whenever I go… But hey, if we can\u2019t blame Cupid for our \u201cromantic\u201d woes, who can we blame?<\/p>\n\n\n\n So go ahead, shake your fist at the sky and curse that mischievous little cherub!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Just don\u2019t forget to laugh at the absurdity of it all. After all, life\u2019s too short to take love too seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s not paint everyone with the same brush, shall we? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Bye now \ud83d\udc8b<\/p>\n\n\n Hey ppl! Everything now look like a bit of a mix-up, right? Even when someone seems a bit interest in you, it’s difficult for him to quit everything for you.. Personally, I believe that no one should give up.. it just need a good offer \ud83c\udf41 Anyway..\ud83d\udcab Heterosexual love is a dynamic of gender roles that has evolved from the past. People often take for granted that women in heterosexual relationships get to choose who they have sex with… we often hear many girls say, “I’m the one who decides if we sleep together or not.” This aligns with the cultural notion that women are seen as the gatekeepers of sexual access in heterosexual relationships. I couldn\u2019t agree more with this, but it\u2019s also true that heterosexual relationships have become less suited for commitment. Many women today are moving away from the idealism of finding ‘the man of their dreams\u2019, this could reflect a trend towards a more realistic and pragmatic view of relationships, where women prioritize things like compatibility and mutual respect over romantic ideals and gender ideologies. On the flip side, to avoid outdated gender stereotypes, many straight men have a clear idea of what they’re looking for in a partner even before the first date, although this can change during the interaction. One thing is for sure, in heterosexual relationships, women ultimately decide if they\u2019re interested in what the man is offering… But let\u2019s not forget the movie \u201cLeap Year,\u201d where women can surprise us with gender roles and be the ones to express long-term or short-term interest in an emotional interaction. I have to say, personally, I don\u2019t believe you can decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone after just one interaction, regardless of gender… Thinking about long-term plans can\u2019t be decided after just four dates. If someone is really enjoying their single life, I totally support being protective of it and enjoying it until they\u2019re ready to move on. After all, it\u2019s better not to make others suffer by making them believe you\u2019re ready to give it up when you\u2019re not. Personally, I have rules in my \u2018playbook\u2019 \u2013 literally a playbook, because let\u2019s be honest, calling it a \u2018rulebook\u2019 just doesn\u2019t have the same friendly vibe and excitement… and I don\u2019t like things that lack flow, you know? Anyway, one of my rules is that I always have a four-date rule with someone. I never go beyond that number unless I\u2019m genuinely interested in the other person. Wow! That sounded bad! \ud83d\ude05 I guess what I mean is that sometimes we interact with people where there\u2019s just no chemistry… you know what I mean \ud83d\ude0e I\u2019m a firm believer that no one can decide if the other person is going to be their partner for life or not.. it\u2019s a matter of trying things out. No one ever got tired of eating chocolates, right? \ud83d\ude09 Another one of my rules is that the worst thing to face in an emotional interaction is the breakup.. \u2764 Normally, dear readers, I\u2019m a fan of using \u201cThe Mosby\u201d tactic with dates. Learning to read the other player is a poker strategy (which I\u2019ve explained in previous posts), and applying this strategy is foolproof. Setting our boundaries helps avoid dealing with emotionally irresponsible people. Confronting them with something they say they want, like \u201cThe Mosby,\u201d makes it easier for them to express what they really want from the emotional interaction. This outcome always simplifies things by not dragging out the results too much and helps avoid creating expectations about the other person, protecting our emotional side. I think we\u2019re already comfortable in this forum, meaning, in colloquial terms, it helps avoid wasting time with the wrong person while still having fun until the right one comes along haha \ud83d\udc7b You might be wondering, Hey, Kim, what is \u201cThe Mosby\u201d? Well, “The Mosby” is a tactic, a move in the dating game written in my playbook \ud83d\ude08 Kidding! \ud83d\ude01\ud83d\ude07 It’s the name of a tactic explained in an episode of one of my favorite shows, HIMYM. In the show, one of the characters named “Barney” explains that he uses this tactic to scare off people who aren’t really interested. Basically, it involves making a big or partial declaration of love prematurely (four dates according to my rule) to see how the other person reacts. If they get scared and back off or give excuses that completely contradict what they said during the courtship ritual, it means that the connection wasn’t genuine. In the other hand, if they stay, it indicates there’s interest, and in this case, it would be good to emphasize that it was a test \u2013 nobody falls in love at first sight haha \ud83d\ude05 A friend once told me, ‘Kim, stop putting your strategies on the blog, or you’ll run out of your lineup.’ And I thought, why should I stop advising others just to avoid displeasing someone? My advice offers a perspective for analysis based on individual experiences; nothing is set in stone… And, you know, I’m a genuine person, with some ‘delulu’ ideas hehe \ud83d\udc7d I’ll wrap up with a little gossip about myself\u2026 I recently went to a beach wedding of some friends, and I realized that there’s no physical standard for love… But it’s valid to know what you’re willing to accept and what you’re not, your negotiables and non-negotiables are like the cherry on top or the little figures on the wedding cake haha The gossip is that I really like the song ‘Nothing Else Matters’ by Metallica played for.. \ud83c\udf41 Remember, don’t generalize when it comes to stereotypes\u2026 And when it comes to red flags, well, don’t forget that even if you think a pattern is the same as a cycle you’ve overcome, it can bring you back to it.. Fire is the only thing that makes us feel alive \ud83d\ude09 There are no saints walking on earth\u2026 before judging someone, make sure your footprints are clean. Ha! You caught me. I guess I\u2019m just a hopeless romantic, trying to spread love and laughter whenever I go… But hey, if we can\u2019t blame Cupid for our \u201cromantic\u201d woes, who can we blame? So go ahead, shake your fist at the sky and curse that mischievous little cherub! Just don\u2019t forget to laugh at the absurdity of it all. After all, life\u2019s too short to take love too seriously. Let\u2019s not paint everyone with the same brush, shall we? 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