Hello my dear readers, I know it’s been a long time, more than a month since I last wrote to you…
Time passes by and we don’t realize it.. but ‘um, that’s part of life.. At least you’ll get to experience the beautiful moments we’ve accumulated
In approximately a month and a half, I traveled across the American continent from end to end.. I spent some free days in South America, then went to visit my mom in Central America, and then flew to North America for work…
Now I’m on an extremely long flight, so I felt like writing to you, hehe
This week I was talking with someone about emotions, and I shared one of my philosophies. It goes:
There are 2 types of pain – the pain we feel on the path to becoming our best selves, and the pain that makes us useless.. Personally, I have no patience for useless things.
My mom has a saying that goes “clear accounts, thick chocolate,” meaning that even if something is heavy to say, it’s better to say it..
However, it’s important to clarify that I don’t think people are disposable.. ofc, I don’t stop caring about someone from one day to the next.
On the other hand, I might be more of an objective person, evaluating how much someone can add or subtract.. As you know, I studied finance, so I summarize all decisions into analyses and equations haha
In these last days, talking with one of my best friends who is homosexual, told me that in his experience, that heterosexuals complicate interactions too much… between he and ‘his friends’, if they like each other, one look from a distance is enough.. to confirm it they need three looks.. the second look is always just to confirm they’re attracted, they’re more physical.. On the third look, if both apply it, they approach and interact.
I really was stunned.. 😅
I joked and told him that I’m the worst at flirting.. I’ve had opportunities with super attractive guys, and my problem is simply that I don’t know how to flirt.. In fact, I’ve been in the game of exchanging looks, and it simply makes me laugh too much and I have to leave…
I don’t know how to play the game, as simple as that 😑
I’m not looking to satisfy my basic needs.. I’ve told you repeatedly that I’m a more pragmatic person… to help you understand, I find illusions dangerous, and anything related to hallucinating I consider illogical. I’m not a fan of drugs, and to help you understand, I consider accumulating “exes” one of the most addictive drugs that women excel at having.. 🙅🏼♀️
Why do I consider “exes” a drug? Well, dear reader, I believe that morality depends on necessity—some people live without the need for a clean conscience.
Getting to this point hasn’t been easy.. I’ve interacted with some narcissists whom I fortunately identified in time, experts in ‘Gaslighting’…
The point is that being rational allows me to be Emotionally Fit, and also that this kind of humans only look for women of my target to lead them towards a state of anxiety where they lose themselves.. and believe me, dear girls who read me, peace is not something to be negotiated, and this comes from an expert in this area.. and there are some women too, so be careful guys.
Recently in New York, one of my friends was telling me she was dealing with a highly toxic relationship. She knew he wasn’t good, but she wanted to continue there because they had some moments she labeled as “love,” and in her dreams, he was a special person.
Trying to help her realize by herself that this guy wasn’t good for her wasn’t my task, because I don’t like forcing people to do what I want.. This guy was someone who only sought to feed his ego with the love she gave him.. but um, in the end, she ended up seeing that this guy was draining her strength and ended up leaving him.
She ended it without telling him she was ending it, she allowed him to interpret her distance after writing to him that he didn’t meet the requirements, despite loving him.. haha never forget the ppl checklist 😄
Each person deals with pain as they prefer. We can’t expect everyone to face their emotions, says someone who avoids having emotions in all decisions they make.
Once, someone with whom I was very sweet told me I wasn’t sweet, and maybe they were right, because from one day to the next I can change my behavior when someone fails me.. I’m never the same again.
As is known, life is a mirror, and you’ll always find people who are just like you in this aspect 💫
As you know, with many years living in NY, made me ‘sugar-free’, however I do consider that chemistry is the most important thing in interactions 💫
Yesterday I was talking with a friend on the phone, where I told him that for me my career is more important than finding the love of my life, because let’s be honest dear readers, professional success is a pleasure felt by the brain instead of emotional ‘love’
Mormor used to say that ‘good people usually aren’t very intelligent, because the more intelligent a person is, the less heart they have.’
Today I understand that mormor didn’t understand the secret hidden in that analogy.. The ‘intelligent’ person, and in this case ‘bad’ for her, who is actually a rational person who makes decisions based on facts not illusions, it’s not that they don’t have a heart, it’s that the heart is allowed to feel but has to be controlled, so that the mind chooses what’s best for their life..
On the other hand, ‘good’ people, whom I won’t call by another name in this text, are beings who often base their decisions on how they feel, many times they lack discipline because they depend of their mood, who live full of fear, and who spend time waiting for the perfect moment to act, therefore, they often stay confused between what they want and what they should do.
Contrary to farfarsfar, farfar and pappa, who have always taught me that in life all you have is time, and the right moment doesn’t exist, only what you do with your time exists.
They also taught me that the most important asset isn’t money, it’s time, and that time is power.
People often confuse power as the way to put your foot over someone weaker, and it’s not like that.. The power they’ve talked about for 3 generations is the power to do what I want with my time.
So, during this phone conversation, I mentioned that being rational and preferring my career is a long-term investment, instead of being emotional and preferring ‘love’ knowing it’s a short-term investment. And I based my whole argument on the fact that as a woman there will always be the possibility that someone breaks my heart, and here I’ll tell you something funny girls, it’s better to cry in a Ferrari than on a bus, because at least in one of the 2 you have the satisfaction of success.
To wrap this up, here’s my advice for you: If someone asked me what kind of pain I’d choose to feel, I’d tell you this—I love the pain of saying no to a party because I had to study. I love getting lost in a book instead of drowning in alcohol, I love missing out on hangovers every weekend cuz I stayed up late working. I love the soreness from an intense gym session the next day. I love the struggle of waking up early because I have a flight first thing in the morning for an congress or a business meeting..
So, I could go on and on, but here’s the point—these ‘pains’ are actually investments. I chose the pain of success over the pain of heartbreak from guys who could have distracted me during the years I spend building my career and that’s it…
Remember that life is based on rational decisions instead of emotional decisions.
The only investment that never loses value is the one you make in yourself, hit unsubscribe from everything else!
Bye now! 🌟
