Yes or no, no in-betweens here! Doesn’t the title sound sexy? Like the content’s dripping with drama haha.
Friends, first off, you need to get this: I’m zero cheesy. If something doesn’t add value, it’s out before the 30-day warranty’s up—that’s why I live by my ‘rule of 4.’
I learned as a kid that attachments drag you down, keep you stuck in a loop, like those endless Netflix series seasons. The worst part? Another season always drops because we’re hooked on the *possibility*—an illusion that crashes in reality. And us women? Damn, we have a master’s degree in that haha 🤦♀️
One of my philosophies goes, “Illusions are dangerous things.” So this week, we’re hitting topics that fire up any game haha 😼
What’s the gradient for cheating? Does flirting or fantasizing already cross that line?
A friend was scribbling traits of waitresses and their restaurants on a tablet—crazy haha. I told him, “Buddy, you’re playing on the cheating curve—technically flirting with the sketchy stuff without going all in.”
Dear readers, do you really think you’re screwing someone else over when you hide behind excuses?
It’s like this: when someone cheats—in any relationship—they’re not screwing over the other person, they’re screwing themselves. How don’t you see that? haha
I mean, what is cheating if not an adrenaline hit that jolts us alive? Like playing with fire, swear it’s true.
But here’s the kicker: is that the only thing that lights us up? Are the ones who don’t cheat just scared they’d get addicted?
I used to say, “If you can’t fight temptation, surrender to it.” But now, trying to get serious—or at least fake it—I’ve switched it to, “If you can’t fight temptation, run” haha 👅
Running’s active, surrendering’s passive—Or did I flip that? haha Real talk though, which one’s gonna have us rolling when we’re old and wrinkly? 😂
Humble opinion, as always, you know me well 😉—traditional love’s a religion. I’m old-school about it: if you’re not ready to padlock the door, don’t even step into a relationship.
Last week, I was chopping it up with a friend: you cheat because you’re bored.
For me, feelings are bureaucratic BS I’d rather skip, especially when I’m in a phase where I need to stay ice-cold to make moves that hit my goals.
I stick to friends—on a dull night, you can always call ‘em, no judgment here.
Once heard someone say, “I don’t cheat unless they cheat on me first, bc anyone who says revenge isn’t a slow-savored dish—while the other thinks they’re forgiven—hasn’t lived.” Damn! All I heard in my head was drama from a rented movie. Jeez! I mean, what century you think this is?
From my view—always real, you know—cheating’s not about morality or guilt. That stuff’s just baggage from whatever social norms you grew up with, triggering the guilt trip. You know it’s about control, the power play in a relationship.
I was hashing this out with my girls, and they threw out how flirting or “special friends” drag infidelity into the mix. Me? I don’t trip over definitions. Sex is a game you play to win. If they’re sniffing around elsewhere, it’s two things: they’re bored and wanna taste something new (insatiable vibes) or they’re done with the home menu 🤷♀️
My critical take: Why sweat rules when it’s all about what you want and can handle? If you’re cheating, you’re switching up the recipe—so ditch the person, then dig into the new flavors haha
Bc when you’re in a relationship and can handle it, you’re into the slow burn—not the jungle. But someone who rocks being single? They’re thriving in a constant wildfire haha 🔥
For me, if you’re playing, play well. Cheating’s not emotional games or some addiction—if you’re bored or craving more, you take it bc you own it, never from weakness or excuses.
Once, I was in a long-distance thing, and the owner of this kitty wasn’t around, and I don’t sneak—I go straight. I had a business trip coming, and I don’t care what he did in his country, you know what I mean—I live for me, you know—so I broke up with him and left the door cracked 😎
Dear readers, power’s in not needing anyone emotionally.
Get this: you don’t cheat on them—you cheat on your own code. No blurry lines in these cheesy curves. It’s not a moral mess; it’s just in your ethics or it’s not.
We’re all accountable—nobody’s out here dictating what you should feel. It’s about owning your life.
Another philosophy of mine: “The only way you join me is if you ditch the drama; otherwise, keep walking.”👻
These cheesy curves aren’t tricky if you know what you want from a emotional connection. It’s not about love—it’s no moral maze if your limits are locked in. Your red lines don’t blur 😒
Be straight-up—the worst they can say is NO! Haha 😁
Love and rules are for folks who need fences. Me? I don’t break ‘em—I reinvent ‘em. Way more fun 😈
I don’t dodge the curve—I draw it myself 💣💥
Bye now!💋👽
