Are we girls a puzzle or not?
Out of 100% of my friends, 98% are guys, and I love it because guys always know what they want.
Do we live in a world where there’s a vocabulary for men and another one for women?
The thing is, if a guy considers the consequences of his actions, he’s seen as “strategic,” but if a girl does the same, she’s labeled as “manipulative.”
Let’s break it down. Let’s start with the real concept of “being a woman,” something both praised and discriminatory at the same time.
I’ll begin by emphasizing that I don’t believe in feminism, but I appreciate the women who raised their voices and secured us a seat at the negotiating table where only men had the right to be before.
“Being a woman” in a globally divided society full of stereotypes is what keeps our progress painfully slow.
“Being a woman” is almost a “Divine” symbol in some cultures and a symbol of “taboo” in others.
Why can “Being a woman” vary so much from one latitude to another?
However, this isn’t strictly a discriminatory reason, as even on this side of the latitude “Western”, there are still many people who treat women as a “taboo.”
One of my favorite pastimes is overanalyzing situations.
It so happens that when I was a child, Dad taught me to play chess and would say that I had to learn to be very strategic in every move I decided to make in the game.
He insisted that I should never let my emotions make a decision for me, as decisions based on emotions would only complicate my life, given that emotional decisions come with consequences we can’t predict.
Anyway, I don’t know if you’ve been reading me week by week, but in my previous blog posts, I’ve mentioned that the men in my generational line have managed things very well.
However, I consider myself the improved version of the family because I’m a woman. I still hold that belief about myself in life.
Why am I telling you this?
Because the world is much more challenging for women than it is for men. Any man can achieve what he desires with perseverance and discipline. In contrast, women can achieve the same but with the addition of 2 or 3 extra variables, closely related to “taboo” topics.
Why are women often seen as objects, whether “expensive” or “cheep”, but always as objects?
This mentality makes the dating scene difficult for guys.
Heck! They literally have to guess what a girl might want.
For example, in the dating market, the “interesting” demand for guys aged 30-40 is from girls aged 20-30, with an average age difference of 8-10 years.
Although defining a 10-year gap to separate one generation from another is common, this division is arbitrary because people within a generational group can have very different experiences and values. This depends on factors such as maturity, attitude, and the individual’s mindset when choosing the age for their interactions with girls or boys, depending on their preference.
Guys, all the above was necessary for you to understand how crucial it is to stop guessing what girls are thinking and to change the mindset about this.
Women are governed by two simple things: security and attention.
For men, it’s too complicated to do two things at once, as guys prefer practicality, and girls often complicate situations. It’s very difficult for a girl to know what she wants between the ages of 20-30, especially now that society offers so many options, and many get dazzled by them.
My recommendation in this case is to always choose a girl’s security on a date, and this will guarantee your success.
Many times, relationships “end” because expectations are created about the other person, leading to a high rate of broken hearts around the world.
There’s a study that mentions that
“All women, after the first date, start to get excited and fall in love with the guy they’re going out with, while men find it challenging to enter that mode.
The study adds that women will always be very romantic; according to this study, it’s in their mental structure. However, let’s understand that for them, romance is based on security and attention, while you guys yield to this to achieve your goal focused more on the physical aspect.
Guys maintain a relationship because they are physically attracted to the person they’re with. That girl gives them the security that she will give them the exclusivity of her physique, allowing you guys to lower your defenses and start developing emotions for the other person.”
However, I don’t consider this study entirely true since all interactions are different, and going on a date with someone shouldn’t strictly imply that if you keep doing it, it’s because you want a relationship.
Is it the obligation of one of the two sides to seek love?
Love is a word that past generations have romanticized. I believe the strongest word in the global vocabulary isn’t love; it’s passion.
For decades, we’ve been told that “doing things with love makes things turn out better.” However, I think the phrase should be corrected, replacing the word “love” with “passion.”
Ultimately, we should stop romanticizing everything because, often, we lose sight of what we want by being “in the clouds.”
“Passion”, unlike this romantic concept, adds effort, perseverance, and cleverness to anything you apply it to. As you can see, this word is more grounded.
When you interact with someone, allow yourself to flow but make clear what you want.
From the beginning, explain to the girl, or vice versa, what you’re looking for.
Remember that at the beginning, I mentioned a different vocabulary for men and women. I have it in another blog post, but I’ll share it with you again here.
A loose translation of the dating language, and we all know it cushions the blow:
• On a dull date, someone always says, ‘We should do this again,’ which means ‘You’ll never see me naked.’
• When someone wants to break up the relationship, ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ means ‘It’s absolutely you.’
• ‘Project manager’ girls saying, ‘You’re such a nice guy,’ means ‘I’m going to be dating fu$k boys and complaining ’bout them to you.’
• Someone saying, ‘I think we should see other people,’ well, that means ‘I already am.’
I think relationships are like a game of poker, based on strategy, clear moves, and bets; the final result will always be either losing or winning.
Would you bet everything on the strategy revealed in this first part?
I’m reading your comments.
Bye now!
