– Open the life jacket!
-Oh no! It’s not opening! It’s not openingggg!
Hells! Women chatting with women haha
You can’t imagine the number of things that happen to me every day..
I fell off my bike on a curve this week and now I’m incapacitated at home with Samuel, who enjoys my company. Well, who wouldn’t?
What a madness! My bike is wrecked, that really sad ☹
The topic of dating is a real Pandora’s box.. Right?
There has always been a dilemma between guys and girls, the issue of being on an infinite quest within the myriad of options that life presents is crazy.
But be careful, these aren’t the times of those born in the 90s; these are the times in which those of us born in those years live in the Glass Age. We run the risk that any step we take can turn into a misstep.
Today, I’m going to teach you how to deal with the other gender (whichever you identify with). First, I’ll start by reminding you that dating or going out with someone is like a game of poker, and if you don’t know the rules, I recommend opening your favorite AI and asking it to explain them to you.
The dating game is very similar to poker; in both, you have to make bets, learn to read your playing partner, and be strategic.
Whether it’s couples, triads, polyamory, or whatever your preferred activity is to enjoy your emotions and passions, you must understand that it’s going to be similar to a poker game.
What do you bet in the dating game? Time, emotions, and money.
How do I read my playing partner? Well, I can’t give you a straight answer on that one, buddy; you have to figure it out for yourself.
How to be strategic? Well, for girls, they call us manipulative if we’re strategic, and it’s hard for most because they all get excited since they don’t know what they want. There are also girls whose strategy is simply knowing what they want from the dating game.
And well, guys are good at their strategies; they always know what they want from the girl they’re interacting with. There isn’t a single one who would date a girl they don’t find attractive.
It happened with a friend who was dating a girl on these dating apps. So I ask him, “What’s she like?” And he says, “Intelligent, ethical, pleasant.” I tell him it’s nice that he values those qualities. Then I ask, “So, tell me, what’s she like?” And he says, “Kim, I don’t know her yet.” Now, I’m afraid to get to know her, especially since I appreciate those qualities more. I ask him, “Why does it scare you?” He replies, “Kim, because there isn’t a single man in the world who is with a woman just because she has those qualities. All men care about is that they’re attractive. Well, if they have those qualities, they could potentially turn into a serious relationship. If they’re only attractive, they’re just for fun, and if they only have those qualities, they become our friends.
Dear readers, I was not at all impressed with my friend’s way of thinking. Just because a probability class extracts a segment, he doesn’t represent the mindset of all men in the world.
Once, another friend told me, “We all know what we want from a girl from day 1, but we can’t tell her the truth, or else we miss out on the fun.” I swear, I love being on the side where men are honest; I would hate to be on the side of the deceived girl.
Sometimes my friends ask me, “Kim, when will you have a lover?” Well, I was raised among men, surrounded by cheeky friends, and the only bf I had went out of his way to make his gender look bad haha..
Do you really think that just because a man says, “Oh Kim, you look lovely today,” I’m going to melt? Hahah.
I came up with this analogy between the poker game and the dating game; I’m in the middle of both sides. The day I meet someone, that person on the first date will have to prove to me that I’m not just a pretty object they want to play with until they get bored. If they pass that test, I might give them a chance…
Girls, I hope to help you through this medium to value yourselves cuz, friends, the measure you use to gauge your worth will be the same one the men around you use to measure you. No one will add more value if you don’t give it to yourself.
Once, I asked Dad, “Is it true that men prefer ‘dumb’ women?” And he said yes. So, I argued, “Then what about intelligent women? Don’t men want them?” He replied, “Of course they do, but for an intelligent woman, there’s an intelligent man. For a ‘dumb’ woman, there’s an intelligent man and another who’s not as much. So, you see, there are more chances for a less intelligent girl to find a new man each time she ends things with the previous one. They are never alone. On the other hand, an intelligent woman values being with herself and won’t allow any man who doesn’t deserve to share her space.
That’s why I advocate for expressing what we want from the other person from the beginning.
Otherwise, you’ll end up ghosting each other, and I feel that adds no value to your life and only brings suffering to the other person. I encourage you that in closing this chapter of the dating game, let’s be honest and not play with anyone’s emotions.
I admire people who commit, who dare to be in a close interaction with another person and deal with their emotions within those interactions.
Emotions are like a drug, especially the dosage that the other person provokes in you. Like any drug, if you can’t avoid it, consume it in moderation.
I believe there’s nothing better than not feeling obligated to give a kiss when you enjoy a lesson on how to say your name with a French kiss. It’s worth enjoying that kiss before crashing to the ground when the parachute doesn’t open.
Because dear readers, it will always happen, sometimes faster than other times, but the fall is imminent.
Enjoy, my dear readers, because there’s only one life, and there’s seldom time to live it. But it’s like driving – if you drunk, don’t drive. Be emotionally responsible, and you’ll live in peace.
Perhaps, after all, pappa may be right…
Bye now!
