I’ll start with a simple question 💗:
Why are we attracted to the person we know is not good for us?
I think the answer is that every time we know we could be wrong, but we feel like we have to prove to ourself that we are wrong for thinking we could be wrong haha
You know, when we are trying to prove our point, it turns out that in the end there are no winners or losers, only that person wasn’t meant for us.
Ageless?
Women live with a constant trauma about age; women who were born in the 80s, 90s, suffer, suffered, or will suffer from reaching their 30s and not meeting society’s expectations by not getting married or having children. Previous generations, with their sometimes-sexist mentality in some parts of the world, unjustifiably apply pressure.
The thing is, when you’re happy, single, and got your independence, people tell you, ‘Oh, don’t worry, you’ll find someone soon.’ But ma’as, it doesn’t work that way.
When you achieve these three female goals (which are hard), all you want to do is protect that happiness and satisfaction that the other two give you, cuz you value your effort, love who you are, and cherish your space.
In this stage of life, girls should no longer be tied to a relationship with a man to be fulfilled as women. Set your goals, girls, and if adding a part of your biological function to humanity is another goal after these three, enjoy it. Because I think, from no perspective, should any girl want to imitate men; the girl who does this lacks ambition.
You know, a girl shouldn’t completely close the door; she should leave it ajar for ‘that love.’
Yesss, the subject that has always been taboo. A girl should always know when to let a guy in when he knocks on her door. No one should stay in our minds without paying rent.
I know, it’s difficult to find someone worth the effort to try, but the secret isn’t in actively seeking it out. It can appear when you least expect it, and if it doesn’t, it shouldn’t matter.
Learn to be alone, enjoy your own company, and occasionally the company of your friends. But my dear girl, learn to select your social circle, So even if it becomes just a dot, no matter how small it seems, at least you’ll know that those who are there value you for who you are, not for what you have.
I have personally seen among women how another woman can be the worst enemy of a woman, and it shouldn’t be like that. Women should live to protect each other, you know?
I’ll tell you once, and always remember it: the day you meet a girl who be happy or cries with you, take care of her more than any partner you have. And if you already have that friend, let her know how important she is in your life.
Once, I met a somewhat older man who gave me advice on romantic relationships. He told me that a man gives what he receives, that the belief that men only seek sex in women is wrong. Why? Well, he told me that “women, many times, they are only offering us that, and we are simple beings.” He added, “Women tell us we’re womanizers, but let’s see, what is luck?” he asked me that time, to which he responded, “it’s the result of a simple social equation: experience + opportunity, and that shouldn’t turn any man into a womanizer,” he argued. “A fool is the one who lets an opportunity pass,” he concluded.
When this man, a wee bit older, who was entering his middle age, told me this, I was paralyzed, and I started laughing to divert attention from how impressed I was…
I have a theory about what I’ve observed in the behavior of single men. When they approach their 40s, they are in no hurry to get married; they will contemplate it once they pass that age. These are men who already know what they want from life, and I’ll use the interesting gentleman’s own words to express the following: “If these men have an opportunity of any kind at any time, they will choose the best product on the market.” I’ll put it more simply using an analogy: “among several main courses and several desserts, they will always choose what fits the diet they want to consume.” It’s that simple. They don’t set aside their instincts but become more selective in what they want.
At this point, my girls, if you notice these signs, make it clear to them that you are not an object. You can even say “Get yourself together, dear sir.” 😉
Anyway girls, we must learn from what happens to us and from what happens to others, although I know that if you’re curious, you won’t learn from others’ experiences. 😮💨
Once in Barcelona, we were having lunch on a regular school day—there was a guy, a girl, and me. I remember that during that lunch, there was an interesting debate where experiences were applied as theories. My girl friend said she couldn’t believe she had gone out with some guy, and he hadn’t texted her in 4 days. So, my boy friend told her, “Sweetie, that’s because he’s not interested in you. You know the dating code,” and she asked, “What code?” He said, “Kim, tell her…” (I just thought, how boring scene). I told her, “baby, on a first date, guys define what they want from you based on the first impression. So, if the guy says, ‘I loved tonight; we have to do it again,’ that’s a definite ‘you won’t see me again, sweetheart.’ The same goes for girls with guys.” She left the table at that moment, and I didn’t follow her cuz I knew she needed her space.
Personally, I believe, what guys don’t understand is… for girls, kissing is as important as any other part of the date. Even if they don’t believe it, girls think that everything they need to know is in that first kiss, not in the first impression.
On the other hand, guys think that “kissing is more or less like an opening act,” you know, I mean, it’s like the comedian you have to sit through before “Pink Floyd” comes on. It’s not that they don’t like being the comedian; it’s just that it’s not the reason they bought the ticket.
However, the problem is that after the concert ends, no matter how good the show was, girls always look for the comedian again. Guys should understand that they always have to bring back the comedian; otherwise, they’ll find themselves, sitting alone at home listening to the entire album alone… you know what I mean, and girls understand that the world is full of second-round comedians 😒
Girls, on a first date, you shouldn’t end up thinking that the guy already belongs to you; no one is an object of anyone, and even less so if having sex is your reason to believe it. The dating game doesn’t work that way.
Sex is an exchange of energies and a decision that allows you, from your freedom, to do it or not. This is not a condition that determines whether a guy stays with you or not, and vice versa.
No one can tie love to passion; they are different levels of expression—one emotional and the other physical. You can’t mix the two unless the energies are on the same frequency and intertwine, but it’s almost impossible for this to happen the first time you meet someone. You know, I say this from my rational perspective.
A girl friend once told me, “You know, all men have the gift of gab to conquer, get what they want, and then disappear.” I replied, “It’s probably almost entirely true what you say, but it only applies if you mix with everyone.”
Ladies let’s learn to set filters and prioritize the abc of the dating code:
1. Self-love 2. Personal growth 3. Inner peace.
If you make these your non-negotiables and make all your decisions based on these parameters, you will never regret the consequences that you may have.
Let’s even learn not to create expectations in anyone because no one is so perfect as to fulfill them, and you are beautifully imperfect to live worried about meeting someone else’s expectations.
For a long time, I have believed that love is a fantasy—why ruin it by making it real?
I’ve come to understand that men are so simple and happy; they don’t care about what they think unless they know they can get it.
So my final advice, ladies, is “Better to accept that you are a diamond with a flaw than a stone without any.”
You know, I’m sure that even the coldest-seeming girls have watched the movie “Letters to Juliet.” We know that love doesn’t have to be perfect; it just needs to be true.
This goes out to all the girls with broken hearts and old scars on their souls due to crystal-clear ideals: go out there and love again. Don’t seek love; just allow it to happen if it comes. Your scar will be your testament to the fact that you can be hurt and still move forward.
We’ve all been foolish when it comes to men, but a woman knows by intuition or instinct what is best for her.
There’s a French romantic proverb that I once read:
“Le cœur bat, tout n’a pas encore été avalé par la terre.”
It translates to “The heart beats; not everything has been swallowed by the earth yet.”
💟 Bye now…
