I PART
“No girl should be seeking Prince Charming among the ‘Fu$kboys’, and similarly, no boy should be seeking for a princess among ‘player girls’.”
That phrase sounds like a masterpiece of art or cliché.. Is it time to change the rules?
Every girl should stop chasing after a man. I can’t comprehend the obsession with needing a guy in their lives. I’m not suggesting they date ten different guys the way men, as they are often judged to do.
I’m simply emphasizing that they should focus on achieving their goals first and then look around for the best option.
It’s curious cuz I have many male friends and two brothers, and I find it fascinating cuz life has allowed me to closely observe their behavior, thus gaining insight into their thought processes. I’m not addressing this topic on a whim; quite the opposite. It has enabled me not to get caught up in relationships like some of the women I know. I’ve only had one boyfriend in my life, and honestly, now I’m quite selective. I’ve become more rational. Ever since I got involved with this “fu$k boy” – yes, folks, experience is speaking to you at my young age.
To be honest, I enjoy adventures, and sometimes I do things that no one else would dare. Occasionally, I overlook certain safety aspects when deciding whether to engage in an activity or not, solely to add that experience to the story of my life. That’s why I knew this guy belonged to this category, and I let him into my life because I wanted to see if he had feelings. That was my experiment, and guess what? He does, but they run deep, and I had no intention of investing too much time excavating like an anthropologist.
Guys and girls of any kind, let’s divide them into just two categories in this text: the good ones or the bad guys,” always take the initiative for the first date
Firstly, women agree to go out with a guy because they find something intriguing in his profile, and men invite them for the same reason. If there’s mutual interest, the date may or may not go smoothly. Some signs might come from the women, like playing with their hair and laughing at everything they say. But hey, be cautious, boys! Cuz the second sign might not turn out to be true, and you could face rejection. Like everything in life, it depends on the person’s personality, and some girls are naturally very friendly. Anyway, body language helps a lot, and most women are straightforward.
However, why can’t the guy be himself on the first date?
Well, I think the answer should be ‘What the guys don’t understand is… for the girls, kissing is as important as any part of it.’
Even if they don’t believe it, Girls think that everything they need to know is in that first kiss.
However, boys think ‘kissing is pretty much like an opening act’, I mean, it’s like the stand-up comedian you have to sit through… before ‘Pink Floyd’ comes out.
And it’s not that they don’t like the comedian, it’s just that that’s not… why they bought the ticket. The problem is, though… after the concert’s over, no matter how treats the show was… the girls always looking for the comedian again.
I mean, they’re in the car, they’re fighting traffic… basically just trying to stay awake…
The word of advice: She wants to bring back the comedian, otherwise, they’re gonna find themselves… sitting alone at home listening to that album alone.
Wow! What happens after that first date?
By now, both parties have had a glimpse of each other, and if you didn’t reveal too much, well, that’s your problem, whether you’re a women or a men.
Men are simple creatures; they don’t delve deep into emotional matters. They’re not like girls who get all starry-eyed after the first date, letting their imagination run wild.
Heck! Some guys won’t even give it much thought even after ending a relationship.
Girls, when you truly find yourself, you’ll understand that’s the key. You keep your emotions in check, allowing you to be more rational when judging whether it’s worth a repeat. Personally, I recommend taking a step back, not rushing into another date right away, not suffocating the other person. Let it flow without pressure. Of course, don’t ghost! It’s just about respecting the other person’s personal space. After all, some folks are “pretty needy,” and this way, you can gauge if they are or aren’t. Then, decide if that’s what you’re looking for in a relationship or friendship.
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II Part
A study from the University of California in Los Angeles suggests that women unconsciously seek out these kinds of guys for casual relationships. However, they often become obsessed and suffocate the relationship that neither intended to extend long-term. On a conscious level, they prioritize the idea of “being the cure for the disease” and overthink the situation. I call these kinds of girls ‘project managers’.
I’ve had to listen to my GFs and their “love” problems, and when I hear my BFs talk about it, they’re straightforward, and it’s hard to see them down about these issues. I won’t deny that there are very sensitive guys out there; “I tip my hat to them”. Personally, it’s not easy for me to be sensitive, but dealing with them has made me more aware.
It amuses me that —once upon a time, in New York, at an after-work hangout— a buddy of mine was holding court at a table, dishing about all the girls he’d been dating. He had this whole lineup, you know?.. So, he moseyed over to the bartop to grab a beer, and by sheer coincidence, I was there waiting for my drink (rum with a splash of coke). He asked me if I had plans for later and remarked, ‘Poor girls, having to deal with guys like me.’ I quipped, ‘I guess for someone like you, it can’t be too tough to persuade girls into things when times get rough.’ He shot back with, ‘I had a hunch that if you were sitting at a guys’ table and fitting in so well, you must have a guy’s mind with a sexy body.’ I thought to myself, ‘Oh boy, sounds like you’re adding me to your Christmas wish list, huh?’ and just gave him a wink before heading back to the table.
I think I shouldn’t be the only woman in this world with the ability to understand both sides, to be neutral. However, I don’t exclude myself from my emotions as a woman. The only difference is that I’m more rational in knowing what I want. If I go on a second date, it’s because the first one didn’t convince me, and I believe everyone deserves second chances.
Relationships are like a game of poker; both are games of strategy. With that said, yes, I believe relationships can be compared to a game of poker in several basic aspects.
Firstly, both are games of strategy. In poker, players must make decisions about how to bet and which cards to play based on the information available. In relationships, people must make decisions about how to interact with their partners based on their knowledge of the partner and themselves.
Secondly, both involve an element of risk. In poker, players risk their money on each hand. In relationships, people risk their time, energy, and emotions.
Thirdly, both require communication and trust. In poker, players must communicate with each other to negotiate bets. In relationships, people must communicate with each other to build trust and intimacy.
Sadly, sometimes things don’t work out; there’s no chemistry, or one of the parties gets scared. It’s a game, and you must decide if you can play it or not… people don’t know how to go with the flow, they fear getting entangled, and sometimes, the one who thought they had the best hand and bet it all, finds the other pulling a card from under their sleeve, ending the game. In this game, you can only be the ‘wannabe’.
A loose translation of the dating language, and we all know it cushions the blow:
• On a dull date, someone always says, ‘We should do this again’, which means ‘You’ll never see me naked’.
• When someone wants to breakup the relationship, ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ means ‘It’s absolutely you’.
• ‘Project manager’ girls saying, ‘You’re such a nice guy’, means ‘I’m going to be dating fu$k boys and complaining ’bout them to you’.
• Someone saying, ‘I think we should see other people’, well, that means ‘I already am’.
I conclude by mentioning that in this matter, with ‘fuck boys’ and not excluding ‘player’ girls, these individuals have very high egos, often disguising their insecurities within their narcissism as a shield that protects them from rejection by others. They are very skilled at reading people and are incapable of feeling genuine empathy, as they are socially adept at masking their interest in extracting something from others with ‘fake empathy,’ they are unable to exercise emotional responsibility.
This type of people does not see others as genuine individuals; in men towards women, they prefer those who appear good, studious, and innocent, while in women towards men, all they seek is to take advantage of men in some way.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where people only seek their benefit; many are beautiful on the outside but completely empty inside. People need to seek someone (if you are in that mood) with whom you can have a real connection.
Everyone, be cautious when dealing with individuals of the opposite gender or even of the same gender in any type of relationship. It’s nearly impossible to determine who the other person truly is, even if you’ve known them for more than ten years because people are evolutionary beings, and they do so instinctively. This doesn’t mean you have to live the rest of your life with the ‘lamp on at night,’ anxious and expectant.
You must be capable of finding your inner peace and not depend on whether interpersonal relationships work or not, as you’ll be equipped to face a breakup and move forward. Remember that nobody crosses your path by chance; make sure their passage through your life is worthwhile without becoming obsessed.
It’s always pleasant to be remembered for making a positive impact on someone’s life. 😉
Bye now!
