‘Not everything is physical, not everything is virtual,
Not everything is superficial, not everything is artificial.’
-Kim V.-
None of this can fill you internally.
Hello dear readers, I know I didn’t write to you last week, but it’s because sometimes I need to take a break from routines. Routines create habits, and many people find comfort in them.
Personally, I don’t feel comfortable following routines because I get bored with monotony very quickly.
I try to diversify how I spend my time. I enjoy waking up early, going to the gym, doing yoga, swimming, having breakfast at a nice café or cooking for myself, working, studying, taking care of Samuelle, but I do everything in a different order even though these activities are part of my routine.
The topic today is controversial.
People prefer to live in the superficial world and conform to the mold.
I find it challenging to follow the currents, the trends, everything that turns you into an exact replica of a society within all the generations that go through cycles.
I am guided by a feeling that refuses to be imposed upon by rules. I like to feel that I have the capacity to form my own judgment about what is suggested to me as the way things should be and the option to decide whether it suits me or not.
That’s why in my other posts I told you that I didn’t want to get married or that if I met a guy and we were attracted to each other, but if he had to choose between the world or me, I would let him choose the world because I know I don’t want a relationship based on clichés or what standards tell us it should be.
That doesn’t mean I don’t like that things; it’s just not the foundation that makes me stay.
This is simply cuz I don’t believe anyone should give up who they are to fit into someone else’s expectatives. I believe in complementing each other, not in complete surrender, as we have always been sold.
Every day, I see cases where girls or boys throw tantrums at their lovers cuz the guys don’t want to literally do everything they want to do, justifying this with their gender, which I don’t agree with..
I don’t see myself forcing anyone to do the same things I do. But if you promise me something, I would expect you to fulfill it.
However, it would be too dull for me to deal with someone with whom I can’t exchange ideas or someone who doesn’t challenge me, you know.
I try to make them see that nobody is obligated to be tied to someone by a dating or marriage title that society promotes.
This doesn’t mean I don’t believe in the concept of family and love; it means that I believe no one should force you to follow something you don’t feel, something that doesn’t move you with passion.
Passion is a concept that describes an intense emotion or desire towards something or someone. It can refer to romantic or loving passion towards another person or passion for an activity or interest, such as a passion for music, painting, sports, etc. Passion is a feeling of great strength that can drive people to pursue their dreams and desires with determination and enthusiasm.
Feeling this is what makes you naturally have intense actions towards your family or in a romantic relationship. Because otherwise, we would live in a fantasy, and at least I don’t want to be put in a box and be told that life is and should be followed this way and that.
Clichés tell you that the standards of perfect love are this and that, examples:
– A woman should marry before losing her biological age.
– It’s commonly suggested that a man between the ages of 30 and 40 should romantically engage with someone in their 20s or 30s.
– A single people after theirs 40s are failures in love.
– A woman cannot be determined in the decisions she makes and cannot have her own (assets) because it flows in masculine energies.
– A man who is sensitive and tender cannot be so because it flows in feminine energies.
These clichés are what have the world divided, and these are topics I don’t agree with.
Why not?
Because we are thinking and emotional beings, and our lives cannot revolve around what society biologically imposes on us. Now, Don’t forget! Trends also try to manipulate your ideas, my recommendation is that you be critical and allow yourself inner growth, of your energy beyond your physical appearance.
I don’t do anything in life without a purpose; I do things cuz they add value.
In this life, I have access to everything it offers, and there are things that I easily have due to physical characteristics, similar to a “catalog of specimens.”
There’s a line that people see as thin or invisible; this line defines whether you use what you have to boost your ego or to learn. We must walk knowing that we leave footprints, and we should ensure that these make us feel comfortable.
No one should excuse negative behavior towards another person by claiming they had no other option at that moment.
No one should judge you for the chapter they found you reading; everything in our lives is built on decisions. However, I firmly believe that love is not one of them; love finds you, you can’t build it.
All those people who find entertainment in getting involved with someone displaying red flags and choose to ignore them, thinking they are ‘Project managers’, dears, that will only keep you in a negative cycle.
We all live cycles that turn into negative or positive ones; life itself is a repetitive cycle. Find the pin that bursts what is only subtracting from you!
I’m sure I don’t have all the answers, but I like to analyze my surroundings and at least attempt a decisive decision. Making mistakes is not bad; the bad part is not wanting to get up or continuing to walk crouched through life.
We don’t know if our journey through life is physical, similar to a grape turning into a raisin, or if it’s like the growth of our internal energy.
Recently, I saw a video of a person I’m not sure was real, but the example fits:
‘The man could make a paper levitate; everyone around him had these virtual reality glasses in a restaurant. One of them took them off and was impressed by what this person was doing in this physical reality, and he winked and smiled when the other person saw him’
This era we live in now is fascinating, but it also makes us wonder if it’s worth leaving this physical reality. At least it doesn’t distract us so much from continuing to work on our internal energy.
There are distractions, but it’s easier to decide not to get entangled.
Folks, ask yourselves, is it worth escaping who we are and being carried away by everything the world offers us? Is it worth letting the years turn into water between our hands? Is it worth aging chasing superficial goals?
Personally, I think we should find a balance, within the catalog of options, to have the criteria to add value to our lives. Compare yourself to whatever you want, try to be what you want, but ask yourself if when you are alone in the darkness, you feel so fulfilled that you could continue like that until your light goes out.
No one is better than anyone; I don’t consider myself better than anyone. I like to learn from everyone, accept the reality given to me, and create with better decisions the life I prefer, starting from the most important point, which is self-acceptance. We cannot deny who we are; we can only work on our best version, not a perfect being. Can you imagine how boring a perfect person would be?
Don’t give anyone your best version, not until you are convinced it’s worth it.
Making mistakes is beautiful; allowing yourself to feel is healthy. Being vulnerable makes you human; being aware makes you free. Being humble allows you to learn; believing allows you to trust. But knowing what you want from life and choosing with criteria after experiencing the above makes you wise.
Don’t deny yourselves opportunities. Don’t run away from reality by doing ‘things’ to waste your time.
Time is the only thing that affects you without belonging to you. Face your fears; dare to live without fear of being judged because, in the end, the only one you need to conquer is yourself.
Don’t be afraid to say goodbye, especially when you idealized a fantasy. Nothing can be forced; you owe nothing to anyone.
Don’t miss the train of self-love!
Live in this real world! 💛
Enjoy virtual reality without attachments! 😎
Bye now!
