“The life is a comedy for those who think, a tragedy for those who feel.”
I am not perfect, and I don’t have all the answers.
Like any human being, I have much to learn and many internal struggles. I strive to be respectful, and I write in this blog to provide perspectives to others. I believe that people who don’t set big goals are often driven by fear.
My core belief, guiding all my decisions, is that it’s okay to feel fear. The secret lies in what you do with that fear. My personal response is to transform that fear into motivation, preventing it from becoming an anchor and ALWAYS remember:
“Fear is the engine of life.”
In February, I released my third song on all music platforms. You know, I am a artist, the song is called ‘Shipwreck,’ and this song talks about how challenging it is to mature, even addressing the idea that all decisions related to love don’t necessarily need to be resolved in our 20s.
We, as individuals, should focus on our personal growth and not overly concern ourselves with how we navigate love-related issues.
Even though all deep connections eventually evoke emotions that affect us, what matters is what we do with those emotions—whether we give them importance or approach them with a bit more rationality and move forward.
Recently, I had a very interesting conversation where someone argued that humans are social beings and, therefore, need connections to feel fulfilled.
Of course, I disagreed.
I will never accept that a person has to be constantly surrounded by others or be in a relationship to feel complete. Honestly, I feel good around people (I easily make new friends), but I’m also very comfortable with myself.
I believe that during these intentional moments of being alone, I have grown the most as a human being.
One of my favorite quotes comes from the Swedish playwright and philosopher August Strindberg, who said:
‘Man is a social animal and needs others to live.’
I agree with him in many ways regarding this statement; let’s break it down:
el. 1. ‘Man,’ understood as a way of referring to the human being, ‘is an animal.’ Clearly, humans are instinctive beings. If we compare them to any other animal, they all follow their instincts, which are often stronger than reason.
2. 2. ‘Needs others to live.’ This is where my debate comes in, and I’ll share my perspective. I respect any other perspective; I just want you to use mine as a reference point for philosophical contemplation. Personally, I do believe that humans need others to coexist and survive, not necessarily to live. I consider that if the latter were not the case, the preservation of the species would be at stake.
Okay, I know that, being so rational, I may sometimes sound a bit frivolous, but dear friends, analyze it with me:
A person who spends their life seeking knowledge, that is, growing intellectually, views relationships with the opposite sex as a mechanical aspect of biology, whether it be reproductive or for pleasure. However, this does not define it as such.
Now, humans have had the opportunity to be educated, and from there, if, in addition to the received education, one needs their own research to form their own life philosophy, as you can see, this brings up a matter of decision and therefore rationalization. In other words, this quest for knowledge often leads us to analyze the biological aspects of our relationships, such as reproduction and pleasure. But we must also consider the emotional and social dimensions that make us human.
The education we receive and the research we conduct shape our perspectives on life, including our opinions on family, love, and values. As rational beings, we make decisions based on our understanding of these concepts, which in turn influences our approach to relationships and the biological aspects that accompany them.
This is how we define what we want for our lives, at least for coexistence.
Why do I give you this introduction?
So that we understand that we live in a generation where the attempt is made for no one to judge each other, where one must respect the other and their desires. As adults, we choose where to direct our preferences and perspectives on life.
Many times, fear, surroundings, and self-perspective limit each person’s personal growth.
Let’s be clear; each person has their own criteria. Some have so much confidence in themselves that they create it by adding up everything, including their own mistakes. However, the majority of humanity prefers to be influenced by others to build it.
Not everyone feels comfortable stepping out of their comfort zone or the comfort provided by the criteria of others, and we must respect that. It’s part of being unique, and it shouldn’t be forced to change. I believe that each person follows their own path of learning, and no one should be forced to be at our level.
It’s part of coexistence and tolerance among human beings.
On my social media, I recently posted a quote that said,
‘When you’re twenty, you think you’ve solved the enigma of the world;
at thirty, you reflect on it, and at forty, you discover that it’s unsolvable.’
To which a friend responded, ‘Wow! That’s why we should enjoy life to the fullest since we can’t solve its enigma.’ I replied, ‘Exactly.’
However, I had much more to say, things that I won’t extend here. I’ll just say that you shouldn’t wait too long to enjoy life, but you also shouldn’t avoid reflecting on life and learning along the way because that means living consciously and not instinctively.
Insights:
Personally, I experience that I don’t rationalize like most people; I consider myself more of a thoughtful being than instinctive. It’s challenging for me to express what I feel towards others or what I truly want from them, as I provide for myself what I desire.
In my emotional connections, when I meet someone interesting, a part of me holds back, and I might be fascinated, but I’ll never do anything to change the fact that I don’t interesting it work. I don’t want them to be aware of my interest, and I’m not willing to postpone my goals, as self-prioritization is always my focus.
Right now, it’s challenging to find someone mature enough to deal with a person like me without falling into toxicity, so I prefer to maintain a healthy distance. People nowadays tend to live in extremes, either very expressive or not expressing at all, and I bet many of you reading this can relate to me.
I believe those who resonate with my words have matured; we’re no longer interested in chasing; we attract what we deserve. We know that what is meant for us will find us, and that’s perhaps when expressing our feelings happens naturally, without forcing it, as compulsion is the habit of those who pursue.
I’m always in search of chemistry cuz, in this world, you can meet many people, but you don’t connect with all of them. I don’t care about how someone looks on the outside, only if their personality attracts me, then they’ve probably gained my attention.
We live in a superficial society, educated to consume. We worry more about gaining ‘looks’ in the physical world and ‘likes’ in the virtual world, but what about our inner being?
Because at the end of the day, you must confront it.
This week, I was discussing this topic with a friend, and he said that there are so many people in the world, and many seem to be empty. When he said that, I smiled for myself because I remembered a scene from Matrix… and there I leave the idea for you to ponder 😉
So I recently watched a movie called ‘Cosmopolis,’ to be honest, I only watched it because the main actor is Robert Pattinson, but upon watching it, I liked the plot a lot.
The guy was 28 years old and had everything in life (entertainment, pleasure, money, and power), but even with everything everyone pursues, he felt empty and pursued something he didn’t know how to obtain, something the world ignores, and that gives real meaning to life.
I identified a lot with him cuz at many points in my life, I’ve felt the same way. Right now, I’m questioning myself about the same thing.
Obviously, like him, I don’t plan to give up what I’m doing right now. I’ve created and will continue to build with my life, but there’s ‘something’ I don’t know what it is, ‘something’ I don’t know how to obtain, and it’s deeper than the definition of life itself.
I believe there must be something I haven’t discovered that gives meaning to our lives.
Normally, I do meditation and acro-yoga to connect with my inner self, but I still believe that the day I have the answer to what gives real meaning to life, I won’t tire of writing about it. 😅
I know for many people, that ‘something’ is love (an abstract thing I’ve never felt); others think it’s family, the dream job, achieving their highest academic degree, ‘x,’ ‘y,’ or ‘z.’ But dear human friends, these are just goals; there must be ‘something’ deeper, cuz when you achieve goals, you realize there’s nothing more; it’s just a competition with yourself. I say this with confidence from my experience.
Be careful!
There’s a step I know I’ll never take, and that’s why I always choose the harder path when making a decision that I know will affect my life, because there comes a moment in your life when you have money, you want power, but believe me, I’m not interested in that either. When you reach that point in life where you have everything, you realize two things about how the world works:
1) You don’t give importance to the trivial things most humans waste their energy on.
2) If you walk looking at the footprints you’ve left, you know that power corrupts, and I’m not interested in crossing that line.
In the end, friends, this entry is just a matter of the meaning of life that isn’t based on everything we do or achieve, and I actually don’t know what it’s based on hehe 😅
But I just want to leave you with an idea spinning in your mind:
‘The world we live in is a reality built from our energy.’
We can transform the environment we’re born into; use your mind to achieve everything you want. If it’s meant for you, what you want will cross your path.
Don’t be a slave to work; seek discomfort because if you don’t discomfort yourself, dear, you’ll never experience real personal growth.
‘By seeking and blundering, we learn.’
Bye now! 👽
