Accept me as I am or bye…
Titles are just labels for the jack of all trades. Have a more flexible and less conventional view of relationships.
Society envelops us in many trends that we end up accepting as part of our mindset, most of the time we don’t question if what is being marked as the path is correct or not.
It’s clear that what’s right for one person may not be right for another, but as I mentioned in the past blog post, groupthink is very influential in today’s society.
We shouldn’t force anyone to accept us as we are or change for someone else. I consider both of these actions non-mutually exclusive. I’ve always believed in balance; I think that humans should expect less from circumstances and people, be more spontaneous. You never know what’s going to happen; you can’t control time! Breathe and go with the flow.
This week I was talking to a friend who was reconsidering his relationship with his girlfriend. He told me he no longer felt the same, but that didn’t mean he didn’t love her anymore. I told him maybe I’m not the best person to advise him, since my experience in these matters is minimal.
However, if I looked at it rationally, I considered that as human beings, we evolve, and as time passes and we mature, we want very different things than we did years ago, including feelings.
Based on the previous approach, if he no longer accepted his partner because she no longer fit into his aspirations, she shouldn’t change for him. As I’ve mentioned before, no one should live trying to fulfill someone else’s aspirations, as that is exhausting for someone who feels they don’t fit into that person’s life.
My final advice was to talk to her, express your non-negotiables, and try not to stay in a relationship where he could ultimately hurt the other person.
I also saw an Instagram reel criticizing how young people now focus more on going with the flow. I even saw another where a some girl classified these ways of flowing.
Now, most people on social media think they are love advisors, They work for Cupid, I imagine haha
You know, I, for one, only express through this medium what I would do with someone else as I would like to be treated. I’m not interested in classifying anyone, much less denying the best action that could be employed in this glass society, where we have thousands of windows (cell phones) that allow us to see what’s happening in the world in real time, that action allows us to co-exist.
This week I also talked to a friend, I was visit her, and she told me about her MBA in France. She said that her classmates rely on AI, reducing their analytical capacity.
However, I disagreed with her. I mentioned the same thing I argued with my friend about emotions; as human beings, we are evolutionary.
The generation born in the 60s-80s criticized a lot the generations born from 1990-present, who grew up within the digital convergence of technologies (the digital age), and we, the older ones (including me), couldn’t question why teenagers and young people want to include AI in their education for support. I think it’s a great tool, even for us who use it daily to support our work.
As you can see, my main emphasis is on making you understand the importance of evolution in us as human beings, and that we cannot sabotage ourselves and reject what is essentially part of us.
We are unique and irreplaceable beings; we don’t need a trend to mark us. The world would be a perfect place if we accepted ourselves according to who we truly are.
Last week in my blog post, I mentioned that before saying ‘I love you’ to someone, validate if you’re sure, in the first instance, that you love yourself.
You could waste too much time waiting for someone else to love you. Society has always forced us to believe that we need to be someone else’s better half, without letting us think for ourselves that maybe we don’t want to be an orange, much less the half.
Personally, I want to be a raspberry… haha, just kidding haha
The point of this analogy is that no one should complete you. First work on your best version; when you feel 100% integral, look for someone to share what you created.
Once it happened to me (I must confess it this Easter) that I met someone who seemed to have worked a lot on himself. In the end, when I put my cards on the table, the guy tried to project all his insecurities onto me. What he didn’t expect was that I was identifying that he still had a lot to work on, and that is okay.
At that moment, I accepted the situation, hoping that he could find someone who was at his emotional level, or that he could continue working on himself in his space. I am a faithful believer that each of us occupies our individual space that allows us to be ourselves. We cannot and should not invade each other’s space, much less create a dependence on the other, because when you are at a higher emotional level by instinct of security, the other person can create a deep dependence on you, and this in the long run is equal to feeling tied to a someone, like a rope you can’t let go of.
I believe my main reason this week for sharing with you is not to try to tie anyone down in any way, because by doing this, the only person who will be tied down is yourself, since the true meaning of going with the flow is not to be irresponsibly affectionate; on the contrary, going with the flow is allowing both to choose each other freely, without the clichés that society imposes.
Passion is what moves us to take action, love is what helps us to maintain it, but this should not become a habit, It should go with the natural flow. The result of all emotional states is the product of the search for security (if we saw it as an equation), that’s why we accept all the clichés as part of our mindset.
Personally, I want in my life (when the time comes to be ready) someone who chooses me every day from their freedom, not because a ring or something reminds them that they once fell in love with me.
There is a phrase that a friend said to me this week, and I will share it with you to conclude the topic:
“I’m not looking for anything too serious; I just want to be able to laugh most of the time, even at myself. I have many flaws, but perhaps someone will find them charming. I practice self-love, and I’m a catch that has so far been poorly arbitrated.”
Keep working on ourselves.
Bye now…
