💫 Love is not a cage, nor is freedom being alone.
Love is the freedom to fly accompanied, it is to let go without possessing.
It is the passion that pursues you; if it leaves, let it go.
If it returns, it was always meant for you.💫
Sometimes I get so inspired that I don’t know the source of my philosophies. I write only because I am passionate about transcribing my thoughts.
I want to tell you, my readers, that as you have been reading, I prefer to be honest from the beginning with my emotional connections, at least regarding what I expect from the interaction with them. I don’t deny that sometimes I’m not standard, you know, I have thought about marrying a couple of guys I have known in my life and as an urban rhythm singer says, ‘luckily I didn’t do it’..
However, I’m not a person who sees herself in that role yet. I think the times I’ve allowed myself to think about it is because those boys are masters of the art of persuasion haha
Right now, I can say that maintaining a relationship bores me just thinking about trying it. I’m not good at chasing guys, and honestly, I get bored very quickly. Why? When I like someone, I give it my all; however, I find it very difficult to deal with dishonesty, to deal with unfulfilled promises. Normally, if I promise something, I expect to fulfill it within my capabilities. Otherwise, I am honest and will explain why I can’t do it. But I never deal with drama from my side or from someone else’s; I prefer everything to be smooth.
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Reading a bit here and there, I did some research in forums, in books on female psychology, it’s funny what I share about ‘groups’ based on women’s behaviors
I must admit that I’m sharing this because I found it very curious but I’m sure there are many more, and I believe that’s where the beauty lies, in diversity.
Here’s what I found; I hope that girls can identify with some of these and explore them a bit. It’s part of self-awareness. This is not my personal perspective. However, I’ll add a few of personal lines:
Some girls can be emotional, imaginative, passionate, and overly expressive. However, sometimes her main driving force is the fear of loneliness, which makes her possessive due to her low self-esteem. They lack concentration on other topics because, as I mentioned, their focus is on not being alone. When they enter a relationship, they create an immediate attachment to it and will do whatever it takes to maintain it. She is the eternal lover.
Be careful not to hurt others, be careful with toxic behaivor; no one should harm someone who only gives you good things. Don’t tie yourself to anyone, but also don’t offer lies to boost your ego.
Some girls are like our mothers, you know, they love any bond she forms, are protective, attentive, and realistic. However, she struggles to set healthy personal boundaries in her emotional interactions, both for herself and for others, as she prioritizes the needs of others over her own.
Remember that no one can truly love another if they don’t love themselves first. Be careful not to fall into narcissism; everything has a balance.
Some girls consider herself like a ‘queen’, they are very self-confident, knows what she wants, doesn’t seek the approval of others, and is independent. This reflects onto anyone she interacts with. Additionally, her physical beauty, within the standard norm, has worked in her favor, something she learned from a very young age. However, she may have an issue with the concept of possession because she’s accustomed to getting what she wants. This could lead to jealousy issues stemming from her anxiety about feeling incomplete without an emotional partner.
Remember here that nobody owns anybody. We must respect all levels of personal growth that each person has achieved and respect the personal space that others set, just as we want for ourselves.
Some girls are like ‘sportswoman’, you know, they are also an independent woman, but unlike the previous, her security seal is the independence she has achieved as a woman in a society that still maintains sexism very prominently. She is highly competent in any task and is what we commonly call a “multitasker.” She is emotionally insatiable, giving top priority on her list of requirements for her partner to their personal development. She seeks a partner “on her level.”
Remember that we are all beautiful just as we are, even if some have worked more on themselves than others. We must accept that making mistakes is beautiful. As I mentioned last week about a friend’s mindset, “how lovely it is to find someone who loves you with all your mistakes and imperfections and finds them charming.” But it’s also valid to want to find someone at a similar level to ours. However, personally, I lean more towards diversity. If something can enchant me about someone, it’s their personality.
Some girls are very mystic, you know, they are a bit introverted, seeking her individual peace, expresses nothing at all. Many would say she is as cold as ice. However, being with herself is more important to her than finding a partner, even though in silence, she occasionally fantasizes about a hermit boy who wants to share his solitude.
Personally, I believe that no one should be completely isolated, but also not forget their personal space. Another factor in my belief that there is always a perfect balance.
Some girls are like ‘the wise ones’ haha.. this is interesting cuz they values knowledge and intelligence more in their emotional interactions, being strategic and disciplined. She sees life as a game of chess, not living with anxiety, which could make her seem cold and insensitive. However, she avoids idealism and frivolous topics.
This girl is rational. If you notice in the description, she values emotions from a deep perspective, taking principles into account to determine that value as ingredients for a recipe. She is not as easily swayed by instinctive human behaviors.
I expanded on this topic in the blog today because I found it important to discuss when I researched it. However, I must say that I like to think that there are girls who combine all these “types” and combat stereotypes.
I also believe it’s essential to accept that sometimes emotional interactions shouldn’t be based on long-term expectations. I don’t consider it acceptable to remove people from your circle with whom you initiated a connection in your life just because this person hasn’t had time to meet your expectations about them.
I believe we all deserve respect for the value we have as individuals. A wise person once said that ‘all human beings are equal’, and it’s true.. just the fact of having life makes us special, we are all equal.
Let’s try to be better human beings every day that passes in our lives.
Let’s try to avoid narcissism; life doesn’t revolve around us, nor do we revolve around it. It’s just something that happens as we pass by, busy making plans.
Once I watched a movie called “The Age of Adaline,” and in the movie, a former lover of the central character, who was an astrologer, told the woman he thought was his daughter that in a study he had done, a comet was supposed to pass very close to Earth at some point, and he called that comet “Ada.” He said that when that comet passed, it would be the time he would see his first love again.
Based on this, which I’m mentioning because I loved that scene, I consider myself like a shooting star, you know, passing through the lives of people whom I’ve considered special because if I take the time to share with them, it’s because I found something different in them.
So, if you’re reading my blog every week, I want you to know that you also have value in my life, which I appreciate every time I dedicate my time to write and share my thoughts with you.
I hope this week you can also philosophize about this. I believe that every minute can be worthwhile; it’s not just about going through life living in automatic mode.
I am a shooting star. I don’t want to be a star that you see in the sky and cannot marvel at cause it is immobile. I don’t want to be someone who represents only something. I want to live my life and find pleasure in every moment of it because life passes in seconds, like the speed of a comet that leaves a luminous trail in the sky as it frictions the atmosphere, burning its rocky dust.
-Kim V.-
I am a firm believer that love is something you can’t contain in a closed space; it suffocates. You must let it be. That’s the wonderful thing about the concept itself.
Bye now 💛
