Hey ppl!
Everything now look like a bit of a mix-up, right?
Even when someone seems a bit interest in you, it’s difficult for him to quit everything for you..
Personally, I believe that no one should give up.. it just need a good offer 🍁
Anyway..💫
Heterosexual love is a dynamic of gender roles that has evolved from the past.
People often take for granted that women in heterosexual relationships get to choose who they have sex with… we often hear many girls say, “I’m the one who decides if we sleep together or not.”
This aligns with the cultural notion that women are seen as the gatekeepers of sexual access in heterosexual relationships.
I couldn’t agree more with this, but it’s also true that heterosexual relationships have become less suited for commitment.
Many women today are moving away from the idealism of finding ‘the man of their dreams’, this could reflect a trend towards a more realistic and pragmatic view of relationships, where women prioritize things like compatibility and mutual respect over romantic ideals and gender ideologies.
On the flip side, to avoid outdated gender stereotypes, many straight men have a clear idea of what they’re looking for in a partner even before the first date, although this can change during the interaction.
One thing is for sure, in heterosexual relationships, women ultimately decide if they’re interested in what the man is offering… But let’s not forget the movie “Leap Year,” where women can surprise us with gender roles and be the ones to express long-term or short-term interest in an emotional interaction.
I have to say, personally, I don’t believe you can decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone after just one interaction, regardless of gender… Thinking about long-term plans can’t be decided after just four dates.
If someone is really enjoying their single life, I totally support being protective of it and enjoying it until they’re ready to move on. After all, it’s better not to make others suffer by making them believe you’re ready to give it up when you’re not.
Personally, I have rules in my ‘playbook’ – literally a playbook, because let’s be honest, calling it a ‘rulebook’ just doesn’t have the same friendly vibe and excitement… and I don’t like things that lack flow, you know?
Anyway, one of my rules is that I always have a four-date rule with someone. I never go beyond that number unless I’m genuinely interested in the other person.
Wow! That sounded bad! 😅
I guess what I mean is that sometimes we interact with people where there’s just no chemistry… you know what I mean 😎
I’m a firm believer that no one can decide if the other person is going to be their partner for life or not.. it’s a matter of trying things out.
No one ever got tired of eating chocolates, right? 😉
Another one of my rules is that the worst thing to face in an emotional interaction is the breakup.. ❤
Normally, dear readers, I’m a fan of using “The Mosby” tactic with dates. Learning to read the other player is a poker strategy (which I’ve explained in previous posts), and applying this strategy is foolproof.
Setting our boundaries helps avoid dealing with emotionally irresponsible people.
Confronting them with something they say they want, like “The Mosby,” makes it easier for them to express what they really want from the emotional interaction. This outcome always simplifies things by not dragging out the results too much and helps avoid creating expectations about the other person, protecting our emotional side.
I think we’re already comfortable in this forum, meaning, in colloquial terms, it helps avoid wasting time with the wrong person while still having fun until the right one comes along haha 👻
You might be wondering, Hey, Kim, what is “The Mosby”?
Well, “The Mosby” is a tactic, a move in the dating game written in my playbook 😈
Kidding! 😁😇
It’s the name of a tactic explained in an episode of one of my favorite shows, HIMYM. In the show, one of the characters named “Barney” explains that he uses this tactic to scare off people who aren’t really interested.
Basically, it involves making a big or partial declaration of love prematurely (four dates according to my rule) to see how the other person reacts.
If they get scared and back off or give excuses that completely contradict what they said during the courtship ritual, it means that the connection wasn’t genuine. In the other hand, if they stay, it indicates there’s interest, and in this case, it would be good to emphasize that it was a test – nobody falls in love at first sight haha 😅
A friend once told me, ‘Kim, stop putting your strategies on the blog, or you’ll run out of your lineup.’ And I thought, why should I stop advising others just to avoid displeasing someone? My advice offers a perspective for analysis based on individual experiences; nothing is set in stone… And, you know, I’m a genuine person, with some ‘delulu’ ideas hehe 👽
I’ll wrap up with a little gossip about myself… I recently went to a beach wedding of some friends, and I realized that there’s no physical standard for love… But it’s valid to know what you’re willing to accept and what you’re not, your negotiables and non-negotiables are like the cherry on top or the little figures on the wedding cake haha
The gossip is that I really like the song ‘Nothing Else Matters’ by Metallica played for.. 🍁
Remember, don’t generalize when it comes to stereotypes… And when it comes to red flags, well, don’t forget that even if you think a pattern is the same as a cycle you’ve overcome, it can bring you back to it.. Fire is the only thing that makes us feel alive 😉
There are no saints walking on earth… before judging someone, make sure your footprints are clean.
Ha! You caught me. I guess I’m just a hopeless romantic, trying to spread love and laughter whenever I go… But hey, if we can’t blame Cupid for our “romantic” woes, who can we blame?
So go ahead, shake your fist at the sky and curse that mischievous little cherub!
Just don’t forget to laugh at the absurdity of it all. After all, life’s too short to take love too seriously.
Let’s not paint everyone with the same brush, shall we?
Bye now 💋
