“Even a girlboss need a forehead kiss sometimes” 😉
Hey, my dear readers, I’ve been super busy lately, but I chose to write to you this weekend 💫✍🏻️
As you know, training twice a day, managing my skedge, and working isn’t easy..
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to not worry about anything except “when mom will feed me”, just like my doggy does haha
But hey, I don’t blame anyone.. I actually enjoy what I do a lot 👻
Once, someone asked me, “Hey Kim, what’s your favorite position?” I knew it was a tricky question, so I replied, “My favorite position is CEO.” 😉
I added, “What’s a human without vices? Ambitious,” and laughed 😄
Humans need addictions to release dopamine. Even discipline is a healthy vice.. it’s like turning your enemy into your best friend haha 👽
And well, I’m addicted to real dopamine (sun, cold showers, exercise, meditation, sleep, spending time with family, working on what I love, traveling, having hobbies, planning, music itself, and more).
Many times, people know what they should do, but they prefer: not to do it, to procrastinate, or take shortcuts.
Did you know that your goal can’t be happiness?
Why can’t my goal be happiness? maybe, you might wonder…
Well, personally, I don’t have goals, you know I have life projects.
Dreaming is amazing when you’re asleep, setting goals is crucial for keeping motivation, but action is the key to success in completing your life projects.
Happiness is the effect of real dopamine, small doses that keep you motivated.
Life is full of ups and downs.. if happiness is your life project, you’re destined to fail. Happiness isn’t a goal. You can’t base your life on sporadic moments. Happiness is your high points, like fuel to motivate you, and sadness isn’t sadness if you change your perspective on what it is. Your low moments are your chance to learn, your opportunity to grow. You won’t succeed (in whatever you’re aiming for) if you don’t give yourself the chance to learn something. In the end, that ‘something’ becomes a lesson/experience for you and others.
Happiness isn’t the end.. it’s the water that you carry for your journey of life.
Recently, I started practicing my French. I love listening to French music, singers like Barbara Pravi, Jill Barber, Françoise Hardy, Pomme, among others, and I enjoy reading Albert Camus, Jean-Paul Sartre, among others.. Well, a few days ago, I wrote this, which relates to the theme I’m trying to convey to you. I wrote it in French, and I wanted to share it with you:
“Voici la vie, mon ami. Une aventure incroyable et une expérience unique à chaque instant. C’est une chance incroyable d’être en vie, de pouvoir respirer, de pouvoir aimer, de pouvoir rêver. La vie, c’est ce qui se passe pendant que nous faisons des plans pour le futur. C’est une danse éternelle entre le bonheur et le chagrin, entre la joie et la tristesse. C’est une mer de possibilités infinies, où chaque vague apporte une nouvelle opportunité. C’est une expérience à savourer, à chaque instant, à chaque respiration, à chaque battement de cœur. C’est la vie, mon ami. Une beauté incroyable et un miracle à chaque instant.”
-kimV-
The trap that stops you from being the boss of your life is yourself, that fear that prevents you from doing things or postponing them, even that fear that seeks shortcut.. the path might be tough or the experience not very pleasant when you try something, but if you don’t learn to face yourself, you’ll hardly discover how wonderful life is in its true essence.
Sometimes, fear can be influenced by what others might think if you fail. Often, fear isn’t directly linked to disappointing yourself by failing, though many times, that is the main reason.
Personally, I’m someone who has never taken others’ opinions into account because I can’t stop others from having a criterion, whether it’s copied by trend or original from themselves.
Even though I support this fact, I’ve always been a firm believer that others’ opinions are not my reality, and I live to enjoy the essence of life within myself.
I’m not going to tell you to believe in yourself, like all motivational speakers or writers do. I’m going to tell you to love yourself so much that you want to please your mind, your desire to finish your projects, because I’m not going to say that your plans will go exactly as you think, but I will say that winners have the confidence that they will achieve it, and that stubbornness makes the universe help them find the right path.
So many ppl tell us that we should have goals, that we were born with a purpose, they say it so much that we often end up pressuring ourselves and avoiding enjoying the essence of life.
Personally, I think humans spend their time looking outside for something they feel is missing inside themselves. I’ve mentioned in other post blog that the ppl tell us we’re someone’s other half (I think we’re the whole fruit we want to be, not just a half orange), or that we should believe in a religion or have the perfect job, that this will fulfill the purpose of our life, or even, vices numb that need to fill that void/purpose, but with the excuse that all these people who think this way deserve (which is totally valid for them to do, I fully support the fact that they have this opinion and it helps others), I must say that I differ from it, ‘the purpose of your life is you yourself, not the set of things that make it up.’
Remember the phrase from a movie “The Matrix”:
“’There is no spoon’, The spoon only exists because we believe it does.”👽
I want to share with you some words that a friend shared with me a few weeks ago, without making them literal, he told me:
“What is my intention for this trip?
Being – I want to be. More time in the being state. Being aware of the moment of the experience I am having in the present moment.
Strengthening – I want to continue to build myself. Physically, and spiritually. Emotionally through connection and insight.
Gratitude– tune into this amazing life I lead and cultivate this healing and nourishing emotion that comes with noticing what is.”
On top of that, I was reading a book called “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”
This book is one to be careful with. My advice is that when you read it, you should have solid foundations, because I believe that not everything books tell us, is true.
You must have the criteria to accept or reject certain ideas at the moment you read them, otherwise you won’t understand the function of “the spoon”.
No one owns the truth, even if I tell you 😉
Many precepts that I have built, since I began to develop my critical thinking, with this book I learned to reinforce, modify or eliminate them.
I’ll summarize it in the most important part, the big three of the essence of living and that we must disconnect to create are: Environment, Body, Time.
Stop being to create what? Ah, it doesn’t make much sense, does it? haha
There’s a phrase I love, written by the German philosopher Friedrich Schelling, and it says:
“Architecture is music in space, as it were a frozen music.”
Answering you, create your reality, we are beings of energy, we are not physical beings, we are beings contained in this wonderful human body that allows us to have life in this beautiful world.
However, what I’m trying to tell you relates to Friedrich Schelling’s theory, which says:
“Conscious subjectivity encloses within itself the unconscious,
and unconscious nature encloses within itself the conscious.”
Colloquial translation: “The subjective mind creates the objective world”
Why am I telling you all this, my dear readers?
Learn to flow in your energy, to explore it, to love it, your energy is your natural essence.
“Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.”
-kimV-
It doesn’t matter who you’ve been, who you are, who you want to be, what you have in mind to achieve in this world, if you feel like a zombie or not… satisfaction/the true is within you, and many times we allow ourselves to be distracted by sporadic superficiality, consciously or unconsciously of this fact. The basis of this is implicitly written.
Recently I had a conversation with a friend, she assured me that she flowed in masculine energy being a woman. I respect her criteria, I also mentioned that I could identify that she was in a stage of self-discovery, observing herself and seeing that being independent is realizing that obtaining her own things is just being a woman who understood her value and therefore does not depend on anyone to give her what she wants, that this set a standard of what she expects from a potential partner, but it did not mean that she was being carried by a current.
The answers are always at our disposal, we must have the logical criteria to understand them.
Another friend once told me this too, in fact her literal words were “Kim, you have to learn to stop flowing in your masculine energies so you can attract a partner who protects you.”
Well, she just seeks from men (in this case) to give her what she decided they should give her.
I must admit that long before she told me that, I thought I needed a man (in this case) to take care of me, because even I found it difficult to take care of myself the way my parents know how to do it.
Shortly after, through experiences in my life, I learned to be aware of myself and my limits, in fact I made mine the phrase that says:
“A smart girl knows her limits, but a wise girl knows she has none”
I understood that my friend was afraid of the world, she was afraid of the world’s response to the things she wants from the world, and her mind created thoughts of “I can’t achieve it alone, it’s easier if a man helps me achieve it”
Well, dear readers, fear is the only concept that has NOT prevented me from going out to explore the world, even from being a person who doesn’t create attachments, because this should not be misunderstood, I am simply a human being who knows what I’m worth, and I’m not going to tie myself to someone who doesn’t know what they want or who is going to be telling me what they want from me.
I will walk beside someone, not in front of or behind anyone.
In summary, I showed my friend that she should not misinterpret this discovery of herself, but process it correctly, because it’s the same when a guy expresses his emotions, it’s totally valid, and this doesn’t diminish his value, it increases it because he allows himself to react to the effects of his decisions within the world.
Finding the real begins within you, when your energy is clean you attract growing energies to teach, and energies like yours to share what you’ve learned, even to learn more.
Finally, my dear readers, existence is based on 2 things “living and learning”, the rest comes by default.
Remember
“Each person is free to draw within their mind their horizon,
and they are only able to see beyond when they open their third eye”
-kimV-
I wish that your mind never goes on a trip without you.
Bye now!💋
